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I went on a meet & greet this week with someone I met online. His emails were light, funny and interesting. He indicated that "email is a blunt instrument" and that we should meet sooner than later. I agreed. In the past, I've always preferred a bit more information and emailing to occur before meeting someone. It was a bit more comfortable for me. But, this is a new time and I'm changing my M.O and experimenting b/c I get that in this day in age, people just want to know and move on. I'm also well aware that my tendency to "get to know" in the safety of email is rooted in my past experiences.

He picked a place and it turned that that place was closed. I let him know and we decided on another location which turned out to be a wine bar. I asked him if he wasn't really into wine, we could could elsewhere b/c I'm aware, that not everyone likes wine. He even sent me a cute text during the day before we met about something I had mentioned.

We met up and I was a few moments late. He was handsome. Looked like his picture. We sat down, he flipped thru the menu and said, "they only have wine?" and I said yes and that like I had mentioned, if that didn't work for him, we could go elsewhere. He said, 'I don't know wine. I just know I like to drink".

We started talking and he's a in a start-up and a computer programmer. He is going to leave his job and start his own stuff this fall. We talked at length about his project and after an HOUR of talking about just his project and what he hopes to do with it. I found myself getting bored and trying to convince myself that it wasn't so bad. That maybe there is something to work with. He never once asked me anything about me. NOT ONCE. Not even a where do you work? I kept trying to be optimistic, but he was rigid and quite honestly, socially awkward. Almost like he works alone at home all day and hasn't interacted with people in a long time. At one point, when I managed to get the conversation to take on a lighter note. Things just fell silent. Like....neither of us talked. I looked around the room and then after a minute or 2. I just said, "So! What can I tell you about me?" and he just looked at me and then moved on to another topic.

Um. ok.

No matter the fact that he is normal looking. No matter that he's clearly smart. No chemistry. No all about you.  No go. I finally decided that after 2 hrs I was bored and tired and hungry. So, he walked me to the train station and that was all. No, it was nice to meet you. No nothing. Clearly he wasn't feeling it and nor was I. Maybe he shouldn't knock email as a blunt instrument, b/c he needs to inject his humor and character into his acutal being. I don't think he was nervous b/c he was also adept at telling me that he could go into a bad and meet women, but he wants to CONNECT with them. No harm no foul. Just sort of.....meh.

The online dating adventures continue.....so far I've had quite a few interested people who are in Washington DC, Boston and North Carolina. Nice, but a bit too far.

Now for something, I don't get.....

What is up with posting about 10 pictures of scenery and things from your activities and YOU ARE NOT IN THE PHOTOS??? I want to see pictures of you, not your slideshow of your vacation!

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Wow! You're a more patient person than I am, to spend two hours with the snooze-fest!